Do You Take Marriage Seriously?
Do You Take Marriage Seriously? That is the question being asked in the article “3 Reasons You Shouldn’t Have A Movie-Themed Wedding“. Mainly focusing on the “alarming” Harry Potter, Twilight and The Hunger Games themed wedding trends; the author writes, “you know what is real and should be taken seriously? Your marriage. And there’s something about basing the most important relationship of your life on a fairy tale that spells trouble for the future. ” What does a Tiffany or diamond themed wedding say about a marriage? I’m in it for the money. It’s your day, your money so why not celebrate your union your way.
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The main flaw in the article is that the author takes a direct you like vampires then you like to drink blood logic of thinking. Your wedding theme is inspired by The Hunger Games your less than romantic and appreciate the art of killing children. “If your relationship really is based on the eternal battle between good and evil, the struggle of the people versus an oppressive government regime, or your fiancé’s struggle to not drink your blood, you have issues beyond the scope of my advice”, states the author. It’s okay to have a rustic or woodland wedding and a side braid for your wedding but don’t be so senseless as to include a mockingjay monogram on your stationary.” You have read the books right? Then you should know these books are not about romance.” Yes, I understand the underlying theme of the Hunger Games is less than romantic, but maybe the logic behind this particularly chosen theme is romantic. We met standing inline at the book signing or went to see the movie on our first date. In my case, my Husband and I met at a Halloween party so we had our wedding on Halloween.
The author does say it’s okay to add a few movie themed aspects to your wedding like “…name your tables after the Hogwarts houses. Decorate your tables with a few black candelabras. But for the love of all that is holy, leave your bow and arrow at home.” Don’t go too far and don’t add anything that’s not “pretty” to your wedding. Well what is pretty or not going too far? To the author, that would be a “woodsy wedding theme and to wear a side braid” but no bow and arrow, no mockingjay and no direct reference to The Hunger Games.
From personal experience I went the non-traditional route and had a zombie-Gothic wedding. Now brace yourself, our officiate/friend dressed as a skeleton and read from a scroll at our wedding. My Husband and I were worried his parents would flip out over our wedding theme, but they were really supportive through the entire process (even in the end when they saw our officiate). I had a lot of guests come up to me and say that this was the funniest wedding they had ever attended. Now maybe your thinking it’s wrong that my guests didn’t say it was the most romantic wedding they had ever attended. Well I say, incorporate the things you and your fiance are both passionate about into your wedding. Even if it is the “latest Young Adult lit craze”, it’s a more healthier way to start a marriage then to have a bride (or groom) who wants a winter wonderland or vintage-glamour theme even though their other half maybe less than thrilled about the idea.
My only recommendation for a movie themed wedding or any geeky or gamer theme for that matter is to say to yourself, will I still love this theme and these wedding photos 20 years from now?
Yes, love this post Cassandra, the great thing about weddings today is you can be true to your feelings/likes and include that in the wedding decor/theme. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks! I couldn’t agree more. Hope my point got across with as little grammatical mistakes as possible
As a Disney Weddings blogger, I was going to also write a response to this article (I won’t now, as you seemed to cover it). But, what’s wrong with fairy tales? What’s so bad about turning your wedding day into a celebration of what you love as a couple? I just see red when I read these articles telling couples what they “shouldn’t” do. Do what you want!!!! Grrr! Great post!
I could not agree with you more! I love so much about your points and comments in this post. Who is this huffpo author to judge our decide what is right for someone’s wedding? Weddings are about couples: what they love, who they love, and what makes them happy. If that includes Harry potter or star wars, then hell yeah it should be in their wedding! Whew! I think I need to do my own post on this!!!
Well said! I am having a television themed wedding, and because TV means so much to me my wedding is meaningful beyond my wildest imagination. Television is me, just like Hunger Games is a deep part of someone else. I’ve known brides so obsessed over making sure the color purple is the same throughout the wedding, because that is what they want. It’s awful to judge someone’s seriousness about their marriage based on a theme. Hell, I wrote(okay stole from various sources plus added a few things of my own) my wedding script–it begins with a Princess Bride quote(marriage, marriage is what brings us together today) and ends with Spaceballs(Now kiss her!). It’s funny, but that doesn’t mean I don’t take my up coming marriage seriously. Neither does the fact that my ring bearer will be wearing a fez and bow tie. It’s what my fiance and I want, and it’s important to us. I suppose I’ve probably said too much, but oh well. Good on you. You have stated it in a much healthier way than myself.
Our wedding had a lot of TV-themed elements. It made us happy.
You’re awesome
Thank you so much for writing this. The article (and the ignorant comments some people posted) really had me bummed. Not enough to dissuade me from having the wedding that I want, but it hurt that people could be so judgmental and have such cruel thoughts over something that DOESN’T AFFECT THEM AT ALL. You don’t want to have a movie-themed wedding? Fine, don’t, but don’t get on my case and tell me I’m immature, not taking marriage seriously, mentally disturbed, and/or don’t love my fiance. If there’s one thing that every wedding should have, it’s an overabundance of love and positivity…how you incorporate that is your business, nobody else’s.
Your wedding was so much fun, and it suited you guys so well! The idea that you should have to fit your self in to a traditional mold in order to display your commitment to your marriage is absurd.
My wedding didn’t really have any theme and I loved it. We don’t really have one pop culture phenomenon that we love above all others to do this with. But our wedding had our music and our friends and out loved ones and it was all about the things and people we love. Why shouldn’t everyone get to include what they love in their weddings? Your wedding can be both fun and serious; the two are not mutually exclusive.
Well done covering the article and responding to it. My first thought was, “Well, I, personally, would like to be more serious about the actual ceremony,” but as I read on, the author wasn’t just talking about the ceremony – the WHOLE thing. Excuse me, but to me, while the ceremony is the serious part, I want to go into my reception with guns blazing! You can’t tell me that there’s a wrong way to throw the after-party. If I want my reception to be at the back of Haunted Trails, or Twister-themed, or a Rave Party, well guess what? That’s hilarious and fun, and the people who aren’t fond of it will see me at the reception line, leave their gifts, and walk out the door.
The way I see it, there are two different things. There’s Marriage, the lifelong commitment. And then there’s a Wedding, the one day event with the ceremony and/or reception.
Do I take Marriage seriously? Hell yes. This is the one person I will spend the rest of my life in partnership with. It’s not “me” anymore. It’s “us”. When you get down to thinking of it, the rabbit hole can get deep.
As for the wedding event itself? I will have fun with it. And just because we are having a light-hearted and geeky wedding doesn’t mean we aren’t serious about the marriage. It means we are light-hearted and geeky people who met through video games, proposed involving video games, and play a lot of video games together, and we want our party to reflect that.
Just because my wedding is non-traditional doesn’t mean I don’t take the marriage seriously.