Invitations to the couple’s wedding went out in hollowed-out hardcover books a literary theme which continued throughout their wedding planning. “We gave out little notebooks for favors and we had stacks of books in the centerpiece arrangements. The menus were printed on the backs of Penguin and Puffin book postcards, so each guest had a different title,” adds Beckie. “I also made table numbers with vintage buttons glued to book covers. The buttons were my grandma’s and I used to play with them every day when I was little. I even made tiny little representative books for our wedding cake topper. Patrick had Kafka’s The Trial and an Arthur C. Clarke novel, and I had Little Women and my beloved Sherlock Holmes.”
The week of: People always give advice about taking time to enjoy your wedding day because it goes so fast, and it’s SO true. The day just flew by, and even though we really did try to absorb as much of it as we could, a lot of it was a blur. I would extend the advice to say, try to enjoy as much of the week of your wedding as you can. Patrick’s family all flew in from Michigan for the week before the wedding and it was so great for them to spend those days hanging out and enjoying L.A. I also made sure to finish 99% of my DIY projects the weekend before the wedding so we wouldn’t be stressing out. My friends (many of whom traveled from afar to attend our event) treated me to a spa trip and a fabulous dinner the night before the wedding and that was an incredibly precious few hours. If you can swing it, hiring a day-of coordinator is the best money you can spend. Our coordinator, Cindy Pham, made sure the whole day went absolutely as smoothly as possible, and the week before the wedding we were free to enjoy friends and family time as she organized our vendors. That was priceless!
Work together: Patrick is awesome at keeping on top of emails, calls and other communications. I’m a DIY freak. We figured out after a little bit that if he made more vendor queries and kept tabs on the business side of things and I focused more time on designing and making things, our planning ran much more smoothly. Teamwork and focusing on each others strengths was what it was all about. Planning our Southern California wedding from the Bay Area was pretty challenging at times. We’d see a venue that looked cool or a vendor we wanted to talk to…and then we couldn’t make that happen for months. Leaving ourselves plenty of time (we were engaged for about 15 months) and having the help of family and friends was great. Do ask people for help if you need it. They really do want to help!
Details: Some details are not necessary for a wedding. Don’t let anyone tell you that you have to have a bouquet toss, favors, a first dance, a cocktail hour, etc. if you don’t want those things. Crafty details mean a LOT to me, because I adore DIY projects, but I had to be super careful to not overload my to-do list. Making the programs and banners, and decoupaging family wedding photo frames were things that brought me great joy. But at one point I really considered hand-making 200 notebooks as favors. Luckily the next day I realized that was intensely nutty and bought some instead, and halved the number I was getting (one per couple instead of per person). I know that many details are just extras. But personal details that will make you smile on your wedding day will make ALL the difference. Walking up the aisle and lighting our unity candle to songs that meant the world to us made me so glad I took the extra time to pick them out. Seeing everyone smiling and waving their ribbon wands as Patrick and I walked back down the aisle to the Peanuts theme song after our first kiss – that’s something I’ll never forget.”Vendors: Photographer: Rachel McCauley Photography/Day of Coordination: Mad Love Events/Ceremony Venue: Wayfarers Chapel/Reception Venue: Betty H. Reckas Cultural Center/Bouquet & Boutonnieres: Muncle Fred Art/Reception Florist: Flower Duet/DJ & MC: Allegro Event/Cake: Rossmoor Pastries/Videography: The Dreamshot/Photobooth: Smile Lounge/Hair & Makeup: Label Me Lindsay/Wedding Dress: WToo by Watters/Cufflinks/Tie Tack: ebay/Invitation, flower girls banner, Just Married sign, handkerchief banners, cake topper, card box: DIY by bride, some items available at Honey & Luck