Do You Take Marriage Seriously?
Do You Take Marriage Seriously? That is the question being asked in the article “3 Reasons You Shouldn’t Have A Movie-Themed Wedding“. Mainly focusing on the “alarming” Harry Potter, Twilight and The Hunger Games themed wedding trends; the author writes, “you know what is real and should be taken seriously? Your marriage. And there’s something about basing the most important relationship of your life on a fairy tale that spells trouble for the future. ” What does a Tiffany or diamond themed wedding say about a marriage? I’m in it for the money. It’s your day, your money so why not celebrate your union your way.
The main flaw in the article is that the author takes a direct you like vampires then you like to drink blood logic of thinking. Your wedding theme is inspired by The Hunger Games your less than romantic and appreciate the art of killing children. “If your relationship really is based on the eternal battle between good and evil, the struggle of the people versus an oppressive government regime, or your fiancé’s struggle to not drink your blood, you have issues beyond the scope of my advice”, states the author. It’s okay to have a rustic or woodland wedding and a side braid for your wedding but don’t be so senseless as to include a mockingjay monogram on your stationary.” You have read the books right? Then you should know these books are not about romance.” Yes, I understand the underlying theme of the Hunger Games is less than romantic, but maybe the logic behind this particularly chosen theme is romantic. We met standing inline at the book signing or went to see the movie on our first date. In my case, my Husband and I met at a Halloween party so we had our wedding on Halloween.
The author does say it’s okay to add a few movie themed aspects to your wedding like “…name your tables after the Hogwarts houses. Decorate your tables with a few black candelabras. But for the love of all that is holy, leave your bow and arrow at home.” Don’t go too far and don’t add anything that’s not “pretty” to your wedding. Well what is pretty or not going too far? To the author, that would be a “woodsy wedding theme and to wear a side braid” but no bow and arrow, no mockingjay and no direct reference to The Hunger Games.
From personal experience I went the non-traditional route and had a zombie-Gothic wedding. Now brace yourself, our officiate/friend dressed as a skeleton and read from a scroll at our wedding. My Husband and I were worried his parents would flip out over our wedding theme, but they were really supportive through the entire process (even in the end when they saw our officiate). I had a lot of guests come up to me and say that this was the funniest wedding they had ever attended. Now maybe your thinking it’s wrong that my guests didn’t say it was the most romantic wedding they had ever attended. Well I say, incorporate the things you and your fiance are both passionate about into your wedding. Even if it is the “latest Young Adult lit craze”, it’s a more healthier way to start a marriage then to have a bride (or groom) who wants a winter wonderland or vintage-glamour theme even though their other half maybe less than thrilled about the idea.
My only recommendation for a movie themed wedding or any geeky or gamer theme for that matter is to say to yourself, will I still love this theme and these wedding photos 20 years from now?